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My girlfriend is talking to her ex

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My girlfriend is talking to her ex

Your relationship with a girl can develop well, and you have even begun to think about the seriousness of your choice. But one day you may be surprised: Your girlfriend is talking to her ex. And this fact, no matter how absurd it may be, confuses and makes you think about fidelity or betrayal.

However, this is a rather sensitive issue that requires careful consideration. On the one hand, you don’t want the girl to see your distrust and confusion, but on the other hand, you feel that she does not respect you and your relationship. And this is a reason to put her in her place, to push all her communication into the most remote and dark places, and also a signal that it’s time to look for another?

No normal guy will tolerate his girlfriend communicating with her former boyfriends. Since such conversations with her ex can make you feel like a third wheel. This will lead to nervous breakdowns and sleepless nights. And most importantly, they will plant seeds of jealousy and mistrust in your heart, which will gradually destroy the relationship.

Why does a girl talk to her ex?

Prove to him that she is not an empty place. Obviously, if she ex-boyfriend he himself proposed to break up, then this state of affairs will not suit her. And she will try with everything possible ways prove to him that he made a mistake. And this is communication, flirting and the image of a successful girl. Not so scary, but extremely unpleasant for you.

She wants to return to him. Sometimes girls break up with guys and find others just so they don’t have to be alone. But they still love their exes and are looking for any way to get back. Then the girl uses her current boyfriend to ease the pain of the breakup, and she doesn’t need anything else. Selfish and cunning, in the best traditions of traitors.

He understands her. The girl communicates with her ex, as he understands her well. And she no longer has a person who knows all the strings of her soul so well. By doing this, they demonstrate a complete lack of desire to reveal their feelings to you. But they always want to run and cry to their exes. These girls must be sent immediately.

Revenge on you. If you are by nature talkative person and do not deny yourself communication with the opposite sex, then your girlfriend may be jealous and suffer from this state of affairs. Her solution: start hanging out with other guys. And first in line will be her ex. Obviously this is stupid, but girls are not very smart.

Other. There may be other reasons for communicating with your exes. Because girls are strange creatures and their antics are strange. But whatever the reason, it needs to stop immediately.

What to do if a girl talks to her ex

Talk to her. Tell your girlfriend that you don't like her communication with her ex. When you say this, don't try to control her or blame her, just let her understand it. Say that this gives you negative feelings and emotions. Hint that you will not tolerate such bestial attitude towards yourself, and will soon begin to take tough measures.

And most importantly, don't forget to ask your girlfriend about true reasons why she communicates with her ex. Of course, there are some individuals who get off with the phrase: “What’s wrong with that?” - but many begin to fuss and blush, which betrays their lies.

Give an ultimatum. If she continues to disrespect you and communicate with her ex. Tell her that her choice is obvious - either her ex or you. In this case, you can see her real attitude towards you. If she without a doubt decides to end conversations with her ex, you will know for sure that she values ​​​​you.

Talk to her ex. The measure is stupid, but sometimes effective. You can either scare him or learn a lot about your girlfriend. Even if this guy is a real closet, then such a conversation can have positive results. You need to protect your girlfriend, even if she doesn’t want it herself, in the future this will only be a plus.

Give your girlfriend attention. If she communicates with her ex because she is jealous of you, then additional attention and affection should calm her down. If the reason is not jealousy, then this is a reason to suspect her of something serious.

Talk to her friend. You can gallantly and politely put pressure on her friends, who can tell you the juicy details of your girl’s life. When talking with a friend, you can flirt and make advances a little so that the girl is more willing to open her mouth.

Do you care? Trust your girlfriend if she doesn't give you any reason to be suspicious. If she communicates with her ex-boyfriend, but her relationship with you is warm, tender and loving, then try not to scold her too much. Jealousy can lead to your separation from this sweet fool.

Break up with your girlfriend. If your girlfriend's conversations with her ex unsettle you and force you to spend nights full of painful thoughts. And in response to all your attempts to stop her communication, she brushes you off, then this is a reason to break up with her and think about yourself. You're better off ending this relationship. Restore your health and cheer up.

You can always find a girl who will love you, and not worry about the past with one of her boyfriends. You deserve better.

If you are trying to get your girlfriend back but she has already started dating someone, then this is definitely for you. Moreover, I will tell you how this new guy can help you get your relationship back.

By the way, I am the author of the program. I have already helped many people rekindle their relationships and regain their old passion with their exes. I should note that this is primarily for those whose relationship broke up no more than a year ago. In principle, even if you broke up more than a year ago, you can still fix it. But I'll tell you about this another time. And today we will talk more about those who broke up with their girlfriend recently.

In most cases, your ex's new boyfriend is a replacement for an old relationship. Actually, there is such a term - it’s called “substitution relationships”. This is a quick replacement for an ex-boyfriend in order to overcome the sadness and loneliness that girls and women usually experience as a result of a breakup.

Don't forget that separation is always a big stress.

And breaking up with someone can be many times more difficult than being abandoned. So even if your girlfriend initiated the breakup, she feels no better than you. And don't forget that her heart is also broken, and she is going through the same thing as you.

Let's think about what is the most effective and simple way to survive a breakup and the depression it leads to? Choose interesting activities for yourself, keep yourself busy and... find someone new!

So if your girlfriend moved on to another relationship immediately after your breakup, then most likely this guy is just a way for her to distract herself and move on. And whether you believe me now or not, this relationship can be good news for you and help you get your loved one back.

It is quite natural if you have a question: “how the hell can this new idiot of hers help me get my beloved back?” The answer is very simple. Since this guy is just a replacement for your ex (they probably met somewhere in a nightclub or bar), this relationship is not serious. And, most likely, they are not having dinner by candlelight in a small Italian restaurant. They are held together by physical attraction, and that is not a fact.

Yes, I understand that it is not very pleasant to hear that your ex is dating someone for sex, for example. But this is good news for you, since, most likely, they do not have much in common and, moreover, they do not have the connection that was between you. Scientists have proven that most “replacement relationships” last no more than 3-4 weeks. Of course, this is not an axiom, but this is usually what happens. This means that the relationship between your ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend will soon come to an end.

And when they separate, she will have to face loneliness and depression. And the person who helped suppress all this and not think about you will no longer be around.

By the time she begins to feel all this, you will already have experienced it and will be on the road to recovery. After all, while she was running away from feelings of loneliness, you were learning to deal with them. And this so-called “replacement” only slowed down her recovery process, and after breaking up, she will return to the same emotions that she experienced when she broke up with you.

And now that her “replacement relationship” is over, it’s time for you to take action. And since she is currently depressed and feeling lonely, spending a few weeks on a guy who may not be your competition at all will make you look more attractive in her eyes.

So, your ex is now vulnerable and looking for an opportunity to relieve the mental pain associated with failures on the personal front (especially after this “replacement relationship”). All you have to do is help her recover from all this.

Just don’t mention this fleeting attraction of hers and don’t say that you want to get back together. Just chat casually. Like friends or old acquaintances.

Your goal is to remind yourself, that you are still the one good guy, who was a pleasure to spend time with and let her know that getting you back would be a very winning choice. Especially if she wants to quickly recover from everything and heal mental wounds. And all she needs to do for this is to return to you.

Life and all the benefits that accompany it bring a person a lot of opportunities and benefits. It’s so good when life’s events arrange themselves, and dates with friends bring spiritual satisfaction.

It really looks very attractive and wonderful, if not for one fact:
It happens that the girl you love is walking with another person. You give a lot of strength and energy, take care of your loved one, and receive such a magnificent surprise. This is exactly what happens in our lives, as soon as we relax and say to ourselves, well, it’s happened, I’m lucky, happy, they love me very much and they will never leave me, and here a conflict is brewing.

What should I do, you say, after all, everything went well, and I do everything right, but they treat me like this. Let's consider such mysterious circumstances of the relationship between two loved ones, and see why this happens.

In all love triangles there are similarities, usually the greatest painful sensation brings surprise. When you're most unprepared for it, that's when it strikes. In order not to fall into a trance and a state of hopelessness, we just need to know that, according to statistics, all, or almost all, couples are problematic couples. One can be horrified by such comforting words, but one should not assume that everything in life is black. People need to love, can be loved and should be loved, but before you can truly love, you need to come to to a certain extent understanding relationships. When you understand the relationship between the sexes and their communication with each other, it will be very easy to accept life’s circumstances, even if they are the worst.

These small lines contain the basic principles. Statistics show that this happens to all people; after a certain stage of meetings and dates, a loved one makes a choice in favor of the best candidate, so take it lightly. This happens to everyone, you cannot know who exactly your beloved friend is with, where she spends her free time, how she relaxes. It may be that she is sitting at home and waiting for you, alone.
Take the circumstances of your friend's dating for granted, because when you develop such a stable psychology of behavior with your loved ones, you will be like an angel. A carefree angel, as Kipelov sang in his song, who in his life had to experience many partings and failures. Such failures only give you a charge at this stage before giving you the best.
People are designed in such a way that they tend to choose and evaluate the situation, choosing where it will be better and more comfortable. Based on this, in the relationship between the two sexes, we can observe an imbalance at a certain stage of this relationship. You just need to know and be prepared for anything, and in the case when the fullness of knowledge comes to you consciously, then negative events do not happen. This is the psychology of behavior, which will give you a lot of strength and energy for further exploits in life.

Don't be discouraged, if a girl goes on a date, let go of the attachment, because jealousy may also be behind it. Jealousy, as we know, is a huge evil that can drive a person to white heat; it’s better not to have this happen, but to be in a harmonious state of mind.
Realizing this will lead you to freedom of thinking, where the way out will be visible, and vice versa, if you tell yourself that I am sure that my girlfriend will never leave me, you are at great risk. Love is sometimes very cruel, and does not happen according to the laws written in books and rules; truly love comes only when you are ready to accept everything that happens for granted. Such couples are made in heaven, people need to know a little more about each other, or go through a lot of difficulties in relationships in life, only then does it appear real love.

I would also like to say in conclusion that you should not be discouraged under any circumstances and be cheerful, just know that this could happen, it is a possibility.

Hello is Lesha Doc.

In this article we will talk about this topic “ What if a girl started dating someone else?»

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Hi Lesha. You write great, the necessary information is in the articles. Situation: In general, I’ve been with the girl for a year. We quarreled for a long time, didn’t communicate for a month, kept him on ignore. During this time I began to live with someone else. Everything seemed to work out, the first one came, the sex was great. Gifts, then disappeared again, I ignored them for 2 weeks. Until I realized what I was losing.

He called first and made an appointment. She came angry because, according to her, she was in a bad mood. We talked. It seems like they measured it. I took her through the park to the sea. Sat in my room beautiful apartment, near the sea. The girl liked everything. She climbed in to kiss. I proposed to meet her again, she agreed.

Then her boyfriend started calling constantly and asking where she was? She said in the “cold” that she was at home, said that she would talk to him about something important this evening. Left in the evening. I accompanied her to the stop. She said she would tell him it was the end. That he wants to come back to me.

I wait for her until 23.00 and go to bed. And the anger is choking, I understand that she is lying with that boy, who keeps her only with money. She receives and spends everything on her salary. Although he lives in a rented small apartment. Chel loves her very much. Constantly calling, where are you? and so on. In general, I couldn’t stand it, I called today and yelled specifically.

At first he dryly asked why she didn’t come. She answers me just as dryly that she was busy and changed her plans. In general, word for word, I told her (led her to the cliff) that choose. She replied that if you want to break up, let's break up.

I tell her, do you sincerely want this? She hesitated, then said yes!!! I told her that you understand that we are going to separate now. She says that I already got her and hangs up. I call back again because I know that if I don’t finish her now, she will continue to think that everything is fine with her, and I'll wait for her while she's with her boyfriend.

The tactic of ignoring does not work. Already tried it. She comes, but her relationship with a close friend is outdated. She says that when I start to strain her, it pushes her away. And when I’m not stressed, she comes to me once a month. So what to do in such a situation, if the girl started dating someone else? Of course there was sex. We lived together for six months.

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So, let's understand this situation.

What can you say about the guy?

The problem with this guy is... that he doesn't know how to meet girls and is very afraid of it.

How do these guys usually behave?

Such guys are always very afraid of losing a girl, because they understand perfectly well that he will not be able to quickly find a replacement. As a result of this, he keeps his girlfriend on a short leash and constantly trying to put pressure on her various manipulations and thereby makes everything only worse.

For example, he is jealous of everyone, constantly nags her with various questions, does not trust her, presents a fact or a choice. All this is done so that the girl is afraid to leave the guy and is always there.

After the girl leaves anyway, usually these guys go crazy and start doing inappropriate things. For example, he might come to her new boyfriend and punch him in the face just like that, although in this situation the new guy is not to blame.

Or he starts writing threatening letters to the girl or calling her 50 times a day, in the end, the girl has to delete all her contacts and change her phone number, but this still does not help, since such a guy begins to stalk her and waits for her near work or her house.

Plus, such guys are very needy, i.e. such a guy feels very bad when the girl is not next to him or does not answer his calls or SMS. In this situation he turns into a hysteric and at any opportunity he wants to take out his anger on the girl.

Naturally, such a guy does not respect himself and forgives his girlfriend absolutely everything, even cheating with other guys. Even after this, he is ready to run to her at her call.

What can you say about the girl?

And our girl wants to eat the fish and sit on the dick. In other words, she decided use these two guys for your own benefit. Those. she deliberately communicates with her ex (traumatizing his psyche) and sleeps with her new boyfriend, who pines for her.

Essentially, by nature, her new boyfriend is this is a copy of her old boyfriend. The new guy is just as jealous, constantly interrogates her, is ready to spend his entire salary for her, the main thing is that she doesn’t leave him.

Those. the girl found herself 2 guys dependent on her and hangs noodles on everyone's ears. With one she sleeps once a month and receives gifts from him, and with the other she sleeps more often and receives all his salary and gifts.

And, of course, she really doesn't like it, when her ex-boyfriend begins to rip her brains out and when she tells her what she needs to do and what she can’t do. This is an independent girl who does not respect men; the most important thing for her is power over a man.

And what kind of man can you dominate?

Only over a weak and dependent boy, who, preferably, has money and resources - this is the most profitable option for such a girl. And this girl found two of these guys at once, and now she will keep them on a leash.

What do we have to do?

A real man would understand on the first date there's something wrong with this girl, which means you need to say goodbye to her so as not to spoil your mood in the future.

Our guy needs to finally let her go with all his giblets and take care of himself, and with his development in terms of girls, since your cheap manipulations don’t work, you’re wasting your time and nerves.

Once you learn how to meet and understand girls, your life will change immediately better side , you will stop being dependent and will be able to find yourself a feminine girl who will appreciate and respect you for no reason. And you will avoid such bitches.

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So, what are the main mistakes girls make when dating guys? Probably, first of all, it is worth remembering obsession. Of course, almost any lady loves to take care of her beloved and tries to help him in everything. It’s just that this starts to irritate many men. The fact is that guys stop feeling like representatives of the strong half of humanity when dust is blown off them and they even do what they don’t ask for. Even if initially it’s flattering, over time, guys simply can’t stand it and stop respecting their woman. Every person is an addictive creature, therefore, sooner or later, even a good young man begins to manipulate the young lady and force her to do everything he says. He's used to the fact that it should be like this. When building relationships, you must always remember that you are a woman! And love yourself. Another mistake girls make in relationships with guys is disrespect for themselves. And it manifests itself not only in complexes, but also in relation to one’s appearance. Often, when a relationship lasts long enough, girls stop taking care of themselves. Of course, men love us for who we are, but still, they want to see a lady next to them, and not a housewife in a greasy robe. I'm not talking about having to get your hair done at the hairdresser every day and wear stilettos at home. But you shouldn’t forget about cosmetics, beautiful clothes and personal care. You can never completely relax in a relationship, believing that “he is mine forever.” This applies to both women and men. If someone completely gives up on themselves, sooner or later, interest begins to disappear.

If we talk about other mistakes, we cannot help but recall jealousy and scandals. Remember one thing: men hate hysterics. That is why you should never make scandals for any reason. Guys value wisdom and the ability to compromise in girls. If some kind of misunderstanding occurs or a misunderstanding arises, you should never immediately break dishes and shout. The best way out is to restrain yourself and digest the first emotions. If this happens, you will be able to look at the situation more adequately and resolve it peacefully.

Jealousy is another serious cause for disagreement. Men have never been respected by women who like to read SMS or contact messages without permission. Always remember that without knowing the big picture, but only the details, you can draw completely wrong conclusions. Also, do not forget that every person has the right to personal space. Even your boyfriend. Every person always has at least a couple of little secrets. You need to come to terms with this and stop constantly suspecting something. If you are sure that a man loves you, then there is no point in inventing any reasons for yourself. If you constantly torment a man with jealousy and suspicion, there is large percentage the fact that one day he will get tired of making excuses, and he will confirm your guesses in practice, even if earlier he had no intention of thinking about it. Guys don't like constant supervision and control. However, not all people like him. Therefore, another mistake women make is the desire to completely tie a person to themselves. This is manifested in prohibitions on seeing friends, going to football, drinking beer. For guys, friendship is a very important and strong concept. And it often happens that if the choice is between a girl and a friend, then the friend is chosen. Sometimes this action is right, sometimes it is not, but the fact is that before a woman decides to limit her boyfriend's communication, she needs to think carefully about whether it is worth doing so. Of course, this does not apply to cases where the guy has clearly dubious company with which he is degrading. If young man Good friends, you shouldn’t prohibit them from seeing each other and spending time in male company. No matter how much a guy loves you, he has topics of conversation that he discusses only with men. There is nothing strange or offensive in this, since we are different and there are things that women do not understand. Think for yourself, there are things that you yourself only talk about with your friends and would not want to discuss with a guy, no matter how much you love him.

If you want your relationship to be long and happy, at least sometimes try to be independent. Of course, the guy is the one stone wall, which protects and shelters from all troubles. But, nevertheless, men most value and respect those girls who can be independent and independent. I'm not talking about radical feminism. You just need to try to behave in such a way that the guy knows: you will gladly accept his help, but you yourself will not be lost.

Relationships always need sparks, emotional nourishment, which is provided by both parties. Therefore, you shouldn’t be the Snow Queen, but in no case should you do everything for two. The mistake of women is allowing complete matriarchy or patriarchy. In a real strong family, democracy should always reign, and all problems should be resolved through discussions, and not with the help of a frying pan and screams that will be stronger than ultrasound.

The mistakes girls make when they date guys are the inability to understand and accept someone else’s point of view, or the desire to fulfill all the whims and fulfill everything that the faithful can think of. If a girl learns to find in everything golden mean, and will never lash out, she can count on the fact that her loved one will remain by her side for the rest of her life. The main thing is to love yourself and respect the one to whom you swear eternal and boundless love. Then you will find real happiness.