What to do people respect you. What to do when friends stop being friends
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We are sensitive to how others perceive us. We want others to value us, we try to earn respect. But we don’t always think about how we treat ourselves. There are signs by which you can determine that you do not respect yourself.
Sign #1: You constantly do things you don't like.
You work at a job you don't like, live in a city you don't like, go to visit people you don't like. You do everything through “shoulds” and “shoulds,” as a result of which you are constantly in a bad mood. Someone else would have changed something long ago so that life would sparkle with new colors, but if you don’t respect yourself, then you don’t care too much about your state of mind. Stability is more important.
Sign #2: You want to please everyone.
The desire to make everyone around you feel good, the willingness to spend time and effort on this only shows that you care about other people and do not care about yourself at all. You expect praise from others, try to earn their love, because you don’t really love yourself.
Sign #3: You allow others to interfere with your life.
All kinds of advisers and well-wishers are constantly hanging around you, who know exactly how to live and what to do. A self-respecting person will never allow strangers to come to him with unsolicited advice.
Sign #4: You Continue to Be Friends with People Who Treat You Badly
If you spend time with people who don't like you, don't respect you, or treat you badly, this can also be a sign of self-disrespect. Liars, manipulators, boors, insolent people - people who should first of all be excluded from the social circle of any self-respecting person.
Sign #5: You give up your beliefs to avoid conflict.
Of course, getting into trouble for any reason is not the best best tactic in communication, but if a person respects himself, he also respects his beliefs, which means he will defend them.
Sign #6: You speak poorly of yourself.
Talk negatively about your appearance, belittle your abilities and achievements, call yourself stupid, unhappy, pathetic, ugly. You scold yourself for any failures, but you don’t consider your successes as something significant, you chalk it all up to luck. This prevents you from achieving your goals and finishing what you start.
Sign No. 7. You say “yes” even when you want to say “no”
By agreeing to do something you don’t particularly want to do, or by helping someone when you have your fill of things to do, you are depriving yourself of resources that you yourself need. A self-respecting person does not waste resources and does only what he really wants and can, without fear of offending others. In addition, as practice shows, people who are offended by refusal are actually just looking for those who are convenient and reliable. Respect yourself, don't be comfortable.
Sign No. 8. You are indifferent to your health
Ready to burn at work, depriving yourself healthy sleep and proper rest, eat whatever you like and whenever you like, have bad habits, you forget to visit the dentist on time, and you don’t even think about going through a medical examination “for yourself”. A person who respects himself will do at least what is within his power and means for his health.
Sign #9: You Gossip Too Much
You like scandals, intrigues, investigations. You won't miss anything that's happening with your friends, colleagues and neighbors. Who is dating whom, who broke up with whom, who has what salary - you are aware of everything. You live someone else's life and forget about your own.
Sign #10: You allow others to treat you with disrespect.
And you don’t do anything about it because you either think you deserve it or you can’t resist aggression due to lack of self-confidence. You are easily manipulated and may even be humiliated and insulted. A person who respects himself expects the same from others, and therefore will try to suppress any manifestations of disrespectful attitude towards himself.
Throughout his life, a person interacts with society in one way or another and builds relationships with people around him. In childhood, friendship, as a rule, is born on the basis of mutual interests and hobbies, however, as we grow up, we begin to evaluate the people around us by their actions, and they, in turn, evaluate us according to the same principle.
How to achieve the respect of others? Every person wants to be respected and will never deliberately commit actions that spoil his reputation. But, due to various complexes and internal insecurities, it happens that a person does not know how to “present himself” correctly, which is why people do not take his words and actions seriously. This creates a lot of difficulties, especially when it comes to relationships in a team. Psychologists working in the field interpersonal relationships, we were able to identify several main factors that influence how people around us perceive us.
Do you want to achieve self-respect and increase your authority in the eyes of your team? Then you need to familiarize yourself with the main advice of the world's leading psychologists and try to immediately start using them in your life.
1. Take up as much free space as possible
An insecure person subconsciously wants to hide, hide and not disturb others. IN real life this manifests itself in the habit of sitting on the edge of a chair or armchair, as well as staying close to the wall or front door. And even if the people around you do not master the methods of in-depth psychological analysis, on a subconscious level they perceive this habit as an inability to defend their positions. Therefore, when communicating with colleagues or superiors, psychologists recommend sitting on the entire surface of the chair, while keeping your back straight. If you are having a conversation while standing, try to take a position in the center of the room, opposite the interlocutor.
2. Speak slowly but clearly
Many people, due to their emotionality, like to jabber, proving their point of view to their opponent. Most often this habit appears in early childhood, when a child tries to attract the attention of busy parents by quickly telling them about exciting events. However, if you are worried about how to gain respect in a team, you need to learn how to convey your message slowly and clearly, otherwise the interlocutor simply will not be able to fully absorb your information. To avoid excessive emotionality in your conversation, psychologists recommend always paying attention to your breathing. During a conversation, breathing should be even and calm.
3. Don't smile during serious conversations
A sincere smile and a good-natured look are perhaps the most important components for harmonious communication in an informal setting. However, if you are currently informing your subordinates about new tasks or trying to convey an important idea to your interlocutor, conduct the dialogue without smiling, otherwise your opponents will not be able to appreciate the importance and seriousness of your speech. But, at the same time, in order to achieve respect and good human relations, you do not need to constantly play the role of the “snow queen”. End your monologue with a good-natured smile and an unobtrusive joke that will relieve your interlocutors of unnecessary tension.
4. Help without unnecessary emotionality
Sooner or later, every person may find himself in a difficult situation when he simply needs outside physical, moral or material help. As a rule, the desire to help is almost always accompanied by a great emotional message. Together with help, we try to prove to the person why it happened one way or another, open his eyes to his mistakes and tell him about own experience. But more often than not, when a person finds himself in trouble, he only needs specific help, be it financial or moral support. Therefore, if you can help a person with deeds, help, but do it without unnecessary emotionality, which will bring negative colors to your good deed.
5. Fewer gestures - more peace of mind
How to make yourself respected - perhaps this question is of most interest to managers and people whose work involves public meetings and speeches. According to psychologists, excessive gestures and unnecessary body movements distract listeners from the main idea that you are trying to convey, and, moreover, betray your doubts and uncertainty. During interviews, presentations and reports, try to gesticulate as little as possible and be sure to get rid of the habit of fiddling with a ring or pen in your hands, or adjusting clothes and hair.
6. Watch your posture and hands
To gain the respect of others, it is enough to learn one simple psychological technique: never slouch or squeeze your shoulders, because... on a subconscious level, this is regarded by others as a sign of weakness and uncertainty. In addition, during a serious conversation, you should not cross your legs and arms, since these gestures are regarded as a desire to quickly end the conversation and hide.
7. React to what your interlocutor says
Quite often, having lost the thread of the conversation with the interlocutor, we become immersed in our own thoughts, listening to him with half an ear. However, this inattention may be seen by a colleague or boss as a sign of disrespect and neglect. Therefore, when conducting a dialogue, even if it turns into a monologue by your opponent, try to react to his words from time to time with a nod or a smile. But at the same time, keep in mind that this reaction must be appropriate.
8. Maintain a zone of personal space
Human psychology is structured in such a way that in order to feel comfortable, he must always be in his personal space. The boundaries of this zone are determined by the proximity of people. Naturally, if relatives or close people are nearby, this does not cause discomfort. However, if the personal space zone is violated by unfamiliar people or colleagues, most likely, subconsciously this fact will cause anxiety and aggression in the person towards the intruder. So if you care about being respected at work, don't get closer than arm's length to your co-workers and bosses.
9. Keep eye contact
A person will not be able to believe the words of his interlocutor if at that moment he does not see his gaze. However, at the same time, a gaze is subconsciously regarded as a challenge or threat. It is best to alternate between direct eye contact and unobtrusive looking away to the side during a conversation. However, when delivering the most important informational points, try to keep the person in direct eye contact.
10. Be sincere
In addition, there is one more rule, thanks to which you will certainly achieve the favor and respect of others. And this rule is sincerity. Try to express your real thoughts and intentions in any, even the most controversial situations.
My wife doesn't respect me! I have lost respect for my husband! Respect for each other has disappeared in our relationship... - a family psychologist hears such complaints every day.
If you ask any person what they would like from relationships with other people, I am sure that most often you will hear the word “respect”.
What is respect and why is it needed?
The need for respect is a top priority for most people. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, age or gender, we are very sensitive when it comes to respect.Why? What does respect give us?
To answer this question, let's try to define respect. It is quite difficult to give a simple and understandable definition right away, so let’s try to construct this definition.
1. Respect is the attitude of one person (group of people) towards another person (group of people)
2. This relationship is based on mutual recognition of the individual merits of each of these people (groups of people).
3. Recognition of the priority of their safety and non-causing harm: physical, psychological and moral.
4. Recognition of their fundamental rights to freedom, expression, religion, etc.
As can be seen from our definition, respect is a whole complex of concepts that, strange as it may seem, affects our instinct of self-preservation!
Now it becomes clear why in personal relationships the problem of loss / restoration of respect becomes one of the central ones.
In order to understand what respect gives us, let's look at the diagram:
As can be seen from the diagram, for men (highlighted in blue) and for women (highlighted in red), the priority qualities in the concept of “respect” are different things.
If for women the concept of “respect” lies in the emotional sphere, then for men it has more practical significance. Understanding these differences becomes especially important when we try to analyze what behaviors and actions inevitably lead to a loss of respect for him or her.
Before talking about the reasons for the disappearance of respect in relationships, let's think about how this concept is formed in a person in principle.
In order for a person to be able to respect others, he must have an appropriate upbringing based on mutual respect between men and women, children for parents, parents for children, as well as for other people. And one more important addition - this person must respect himself!
There is a very close connection between self-esteem and the respect of others. Surely many people know the axiom that it is impossible to achieve respect from others without respecting yourself. It is believed that a person’s self-esteem is divided into two components:
- emotional - how I relate to myself from the perspective of “good and evil”, my assessment of myself as a “good” or “bad” person, and
- rational - an indicator of my competence, professionalism, success. Note that both components that form self-esteem in men and women are different.
From the figure it becomes clear that we call respectful an attitude towards us that strengthens or, at a minimum, maintains our self-esteem.
Accordingly, I will regard “unfriendly” behavior that questions my competence or my assessment of myself as disrespectful. In relationships between a man and a woman, respect is closely related to gender-role behavior, or more precisely, to the expectation of certain behavior.
Let's look at a simple example.
A man and a woman are driving in a car. We stopped.
The man got out of the car, opened the door on the woman's side and helped her out of the car.
The man showed respect for the lady (helped her out of the car), the woman showed respect for the man by waiting for him to come up to help her out, thanking him, thereby showing that she was confident in his good manners.
Respect breeds respect.
Unfortunately, manifestations of disrespect begin with “little things”, the most typical of which are: lack of elementary gratitude at the level of thank you, inattention, failure to fulfill one’s promises, raising one’s voice.
Of course, some will react to this, and some will not. Are you sure you know the saying that “small lies breed great mistrust”? The same can be said about respect - small manifestations of disrespect grow into big problems over time.
Signs of chronic disrespect in men and women are presented in the following figure:
It is important to note that respect is lost not only when such behavior is shown directly to to this person, but also to his relatives, friends or colleagues.
My husband doesn't respect my mother! My wife doesn't respect my friends!
From time to time, at a reception, I hear one or another client talk about the loss of respect for his wife/husband because of her/his disrespectful attitude towards relatives or friends.
Indeed, we often associate ourselves with people close to us and tend to take into account what is not always directed directly at us.
Why is this happening?
Belonging to a group (and family, friends, colleagues are a group) gives us an additional feeling of security and comfort, so disrespect for this “our” group automatically extends to us. In disconnected families, where there are no close emotional connections, this does not happen.
There are a number of behaviors that almost always cause long-term (if not permanent) loss of respect.
They are well known: betrayal (treason), humiliation, insult, lies, violence.
Regardless of gender, a person who encounters such manifestations on the part of a partner instantly loses respect for him. It is extremely difficult to restore respect after such actions. This is due to the fact that each of these actions deeply wounds the self-esteem of the victim and causes him pain. Pain and respect are incompatible.
The peculiarity of respect is that earning it is much more difficult than losing it. In this sense, respect as a concept is close to trust.
What to do if you feel a loss of respect for yourself from your loved ones?
Here's a simple one step-by-step instruction, which can help regain lost respect.
1. Look at yourself.
Analyze your behavior as “possibly wrong” towards the person. Maybe you violated his “boundaries”, doubted his value, or simply offended him...
Not everyone is able to openly and immediately declare an incorrect attitude towards themselves. Unexpressed grievances do not go away.
Having admitted the wrongness of your behavior, do not rush to immediately ask for forgiveness, but rather try to understand why (?) you did this.
Without understanding the motives for your behavior, you risk repeating it in the future. The next stage of your analysis will be to find another way of acting that will not be perceived by your partner as disrespectful.
2. Start a dialogue.
Tell your partner how important their respectful attitude is to you and what it feels like when they don't. Don't make excuses or shift the blame from yourself to him.
Admit your mistakes by simply listing them. Recognize a person’s right to be offended by you and change their attitude towards you.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
It is forgiveness, not apology.
Not many people know that there are big differences between these two terms.
Apology is a more formal, secular term. Its essence boils down to asking to take the apologetic person out of the “state of guilt.” Forgiveness is a more personal, if not intimate, term - its essence is a request to accept repentance.
4. Take action.
Regardless of whether you have been forgiven or not, your awareness of your mistakes must be transformed into new attitudes and actions.
There should be respect in any relationship. If you feel that something is going wrong and the guy is not treating you the way you treat him, analyze your relationship. Think about how you feel. Do you feel trapped or controlled? If so, think about how your boyfriend treats you. Perhaps he behaves rudely sometimes? Is he trying to lecture you? If you feel like your partner doesn't respect you, don't spend much time wondering whether you should continue the relationship.
Steps
Part 1
Assess your feelings- It may seem to you that the guy does not know basic things about you. For example, he doesn't respect your personal boundaries and doesn't know what you like. This may be because he doesn't listen to you or is simply not paying attention to you.
- The ability to listen carefully to your interlocutor is the main sign of a respectful relationship. If a person doesn't try to listen and understand you, they probably don't respect you.
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Think about whether you feel unworthy of something. Think about your role in the relationship. If a partner is not given the respect they deserve in a relationship, they feel unworthy. In a normal relationship, both partners feel that they deserve love and respect.
- For example, sometimes you catch yourself thinking: “I don’t deserve him” or “It’s my fault that he swears. I don't deserve to be treated well."
- Believe me, you truly deserve respect. Every person is worthy of respect. If you constantly feel unworthy of something (respect, attention, kindness and love, meeting your needs), then the guy treats you without due respect.
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Assess the overall energy level in the relationship. It happens that relationships between people become as if “poisoned”. If you are constantly being treated with disdain, think about how you feel. Do you almost always feel tired? Do you feel like all your energy has been sucked out of you? If so, chances are your partner doesn't respect you.
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Think about your behavior. Perhaps your partner's disrespect is caused by your behavior. If you are dating someone who treats you with disdain, you will feel bad all the time.
- Do you feel like you are not the same person you used to be? It seems to you that you can no longer live your old life, where there was a place for friends, hobbies, public life and other joys?
- Do you feel like it's not so easy for you to communicate with people anymore? Perhaps in Lately have you become more hot-tempered and aggressive? This is a sign that you are being disrespected - it causes you to lash out at others.
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Consider whether your boyfriend takes responsibility for his actions. If a person treats you with disrespect, he won't be bothered by the fact that he's hurting you. Most people apologize for their bad actions and try to change. A person who doesn't respect you won't take responsibility.
- Your boyfriend may refuse to apologize to you even for small things. For example, he is always late, but never apologizes, but only makes excuses: “There were traffic jams,” “I’m in a bad mood, so I lost track of time.”
- In addition, the guy can make excuses about actions that show his disrespect. For example: “I’m sorry I yelled at you, but you have no idea how much pressure I’ve been under lately.” He may go even further and accuse you of something. For example: “I would be okay with you meeting with friends if I felt that you valued our relationship.”
Think about what you feel and hear. If your boyfriend doesn't respect you, you will feel like your requests are going unanswered. Do you feel like your guy really understands you? Do you feel like he knows your needs and desires? If not, he's probably being disrespectful.
Part 3
Deal with disrespect-
If necessary, start asserting yourself. If you think that a guy treats you with disdain, learn to defend your point of view. As soon as he disrespects you, show him that you don't intend to tolerate it. There is no need to be aggressive and rude. Just in calm tone explain what you need.
- If you and your partner have a problem a difficult situation, deal with her at this very moment. Calmly let the guy know that his words sound disrespectful and you do not accept them. To avoid continuing the quarrel, say this in a calm tone.
- For example, a guy starts to resent you going out with your friends after work because he thinks your friends are irresponsible. Then tell him something like, “I appreciate your concern, but I'm great at standing up for myself. I have the right to meet my friends, and I want you to respect my opinion."
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If the guy doesn't show respect, end the conversation. If a guy constantly treats you with disdain, he won't always listen to you when you start asserting yourself. Instead of listening to you and compromising, he may become angry and aggressive. For example: “I don’t care what you need. I don’t want you seeing these girls outside of work.” In this case, just leave silently.
- You need to back up your words with actions. If you want a guy to respect your right to... social life, and he disagrees with you, show that you will not tolerate disrespectful treatment of yourself.
- Say something like, “You're not listening to me, so our conversation won't get you anywhere. I'm going for a walk". Then give the guy a few hours to calm down.
- If someone treats you without respect, you should not be in a relationship with that person. If you constantly feel controlled, uncomfortable, or unhappy, the relationship is likely not worth your time. There is nothing wrong with walking away if a person doesn't respect you.
- Another way to tell if a guy respects you is to look at his reaction when you start telling him about your dream or goal in life. If a guy supports you and shows that he believes in you, you can be sure that he respects you. If he starts criticizing you or doesn't listen to what you're saying at all, you can immediately understand that he doesn't respect you.
- If you are in a committed relationship, communication is the key to success and a lasting union. Express your feelings. If a guy upsets you, let him know how you feel. Don't give up. You have the right to express your feelings. Especially if we're talking about about disrespect towards you and your union.
There can be many reasons why you are not appreciated at work. And they can be both objective, i.e. both really existing and subjective, i.e. far-fetched. Objective reasons include incompetence, a tendency to make mistakes, inattention, laziness, etc. The subjective reason may be age (colleagues who are too young or too old are often treated with disdain), personal rejection, etc.
How to make yourself valued and respected
In order for you to be appreciated for your professional qualities, you need to clearly demonstrate them. Work hard, improve your skills, raise your professional level. Since highly skilled workers are valued much more, master any operations that improve your skills.Learn to correctly present the results of your work and do not allow them to be appropriated by another person. Sometimes it is useful to focus management's attention on the difficulties you faced while completing a task and how you successfully overcame them. Modesty is good, but only in moderation. Additionally, if you don't emphasize your accomplishments, management will likely only learn about your mistakes, which is unlikely to serve you well.
Be a man of action - don't allow yourself to make promises and not keep them. If you worked hard, but did not achieve a good result, before reporting to management, analyze the reasons for the failure and immediately after the report make practical suggestions to correct the situation.
Build relationships with colleagues. A person who is unpleasant to the people who work with him will never be appreciated and respected. Be neat, polite, respond to requests for help, and participate in corporate events.
Sometimes people may feel a lack of interest in the surrounding reality. When fatigue from everything becomes permanent, it is necessary to take measures to combat this condition.
Instructions
Rest. Perhaps your mental fatigue is interconnected with physical exhaustion. Give your body a break. Take a vacation from work for example. Sleep more, relax and walk. Perhaps lately you have set yourself too difficult tasks, too ambitious goals. Take care of your health and be more lenient towards yourself.
Change your surroundings. If nothing around you makes you happy, go on a trip. Another city and country can be a real discovery for you. You will not only restore psychological balance, but also feel the joy of life again. You might like another place so much that you seriously consider moving. IN in this case such changes will benefit you.
Review your goals. Maybe you feel tired because you are not getting any return or satisfaction from your efforts. Conduct an audit of your life tasks and determine which of them are relevant and which are already outdated. You should not waste your resources on goals that you achieve out of inertia, and not out of sincere desire.
If you can't figure out which way to move to improve your condition, wait. Perhaps the situation will improve on its own. Maybe the situation will get worse, but it will be clear to you what exactly you have to change in order to stop feeling endless fatigue.
Take a closer look at your surroundings. Maybe there are people around you who don’t value or understand you. If you constantly give all your best for such individuals and do not receive any response, you can fall into a state of impasse and feel tired of everything. Choose your friends and acquaintances more carefully. Don't let them drain your energy and life resources.
Drop everything. Don't do anything. If you're tired of everything, White light I’m no longer nice to you, stop trying to force yourself to be active. When you feel like thinking and doing nothing, give in to this mood. Perhaps, having overcome boredom, you will return to your normal state with renewed vigor.
You should not aggravate your condition with alcohol. Understand that this is not an option. By going all out, you will only hurt yourself. Try to adjust yourself to the fact that your situation is temporary. Gradually get used to the idea that you will soon be ready to return to life.
Find support in your favorite music and inspiring films. Watch a funny TV series or read an interesting book. Perhaps, thanks to such a pastime, you will perk up and feel a taste for life again.
Problems at work can seriously unsettle you, especially if there is a conflict with your boss. It is important to respond to criticism correctly so as not to aggravate the situation and not lose your job.
Low salary
You have worked for the company for several years. And so a young specialist gets a job with you, and the boss assigns him a salary equal to yours. In your opinion, this is an unfair decision, since you were essentially made to understand that your experience does not matter.
In this situation, you should not conflict with your boss. Do not take out your dissatisfaction on the newcomer; do not try to insult him or put him in an unfavorable light in front of management. Call your manager for a frank conversation and ask for a salary increase. Justify this with your impeccable work, and not because the new guy gets the same as you.
Not promoted
For several years you have been striving for a higher position. And now it's freed appropriate place, but unexpectedly it was not you who was transferred to it, but a person unknown to anyone from the outside.
Explain to your boss that you have been working at the same job for many years and have succeeded at it. But you are ready to try yourself in other areas of activity. Therefore, you are very interested to know how management envisions your future career in the company. If you are truly appreciated, you will soon be promoted.
You got a dressing down for no reason
Yours professional activity Until now, it hasn’t caused any criticism, but suddenly your manager suddenly yelled at you. It is necessary to very delicately smooth out the conflict with the boss and restore the old relationship.
Perhaps the anger of management is not caused by your miscalculation, but the source of their irritation is another person. You just turned up at the wrong time. You should wait a couple of days and they will probably apologize to you.
If nothing happens, choose a good moment when the boss is good mood and not in a hurry, and talk. Find out what your mistake was and why you received such criticism. If it turns out that you actually made a mistake in your work, apologize and correct it.
Conflict with the boss due to rude words addressed to him
You showed carelessness in a conversation with colleagues, and now the boss knows that you are unhappy with him. All that remains is to find a compelling reason for your dismissal. How to be? First of all, never allow yourself to criticize management or even just your colleagues. However, if this happens, then you must, on your own initiative, apologize and make peace. Sometimes, in a fit of anger, we make unflattering remarks about our superiors.
The main thing to remember is that when you have a conflict with your boss, you need to behave with restraint and respect. You should not start an open war, because victory most likely will not be on your side.
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Mom is a dear person. But even the closest relatives do not always become friends. It happens that irreconcilable differences arise between children and parents due to opposing views of the world.
Instructions
What to do if it is difficult to communicate with your mother? Think about when the relationship cooled down and what contributed to it. Perhaps it all comes from childhood. Some parents, due to their temperament and character, are too cold with their children and are more busy with their own problems. Children in the family are perceived as a nuisance; mothers want to quickly raise them and get rid of unnecessary responsibilities. In such families, one should not expect warmth from parents even in adulthood. Mothers realize that they have made a mistake only when they become old and frail. They themselves need support and begin to try to win back the love of their children. If this is your situation, know that you have the right to refuse your mother, as she once did. But do you need it? Perhaps your mother realized her mistakes, repented and now really needs you. Talk to her frankly. Only a confidential conversation will put all the dots in a relationship.
There are also opposite situations. It is difficult to communicate with because of their love for children, which sweeps away everything in its path. Such parents harass their adored child with overprotectiveness, try to control every step even in adulthood, get into family relationships adult children, etc. It is very difficult to come to terms with this behavior of a mother, and it is not necessary. First, explain to her that you are an independent adult, tell her how you are respected at work, how valued in your family. For mothers prone to overprotection, it is very important what those around her think about her “baby”. Therefore, referring to your senior comrades and leaders, prove to her that you can be trusted and that you are already capable of taking responsibility for your actions. If the conversation does not help, limit communication with your mother. Ask her to text instead of call when she wants to say something. If it doesn't help, don't answer calls, only messages. Over time, mom will understand that you are quite capable of doing without her, and will find a new hobby. But don’t forget your mother at all. Be sure to take an interest in her affairs and health. Just do this in your free time from work and when you are in the mood to communicate with loved ones. Then there will be peace and tranquility in your relationship with your parents.
Try not to conflict with your mother, no matter how difficult it may be. Don't make scandals, solve everything through negotiations. Act like an adult. Then your parents will treat you with respect, trust and consult with you.
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