The noise is annoying, what should I do? What to do if music and sounds are annoying? What is the reason

Nervous irritation... Oh, I have known this disease for a long time. Have you seen people who are constantly wearing headphones, and music is blaring loudly from them? In transport, in a cafe, on a walk. Just recently I was exactly the same. Why did sounds irritate me? I didn't know then. But I couldn’t live without headphones - I needed them always and everywhere. To isolate yourself from everyone, to close yourself off. And if suddenly they were not found in my bag, I experienced real attacks of panic and nervous irritation at everyone around me and everything that was happening around me.

- What, you can’t carry a handkerchief with you?- I thought angrily if a person with a cold sat down next to me, sniffling every now and then.
- What, your mother didn’t teach you how to behave civilly?- I was furious when, in line at the clinic, I got stuck next to a man chomping gum for the entire corridor.
- Oh God, not this disgusting! - I screamed to myself when I saw a person approaching, crunching popcorn or spitting seeds - these people were my number one enemies.

And although hatred and nervous irritation bubbled up in my soul, I never said anything out loud. Why do sounds irritate me so much? This question always faded into the background - nervous irritation was at the center of everything!

A hundred thousand times I repeated curses to myself in the direction of that scoundrel who annoyed me, and this got to the point where my heart began to pound nervously and my hands to tremble, but I couldn’t say... I couldn’t say! After all, others are silent and patient (I thought so), which means I should do the same - behave nicely and intelligently and shove my nervous tension... deeper. And then, when the sound stimulus went away, she continued to rage for a long time and thought: “You should have told me how to behave!” These thoughts burned me completely, they tormented me - my nerves were shaken to the limit.

Why are sounds so annoying and how to deal with it?

And so, it was in such situations that loud music in headphones came to my aid. She gave relief to my ears, and I simply closed my eyes so as not to see this annoying, unpleasant world. And since every year there were more and more irritants, the headphones literally became like a glove in my body - I almost never parted with them. They were either in a bag, or on a shelf near the bed, or on the desktop. Always. With no exceptions. They were my cure for nervous irritation and hatred towards others, which was difficult for me to cope with.

I can't call myself a music fan. And when I was choosing what to put on the player for listening, I always had one priority - something louder. Of course, the reason for my “love” for music was that I wanted to drown out the world around me, which was terribly annoying and infuriating.

Can nervous irritation from sounds disappear on its own? Tested on my own skin - yes!

A year ago I completed the training “System-vector psychology” by Yuri Burlan. The lecturer mentioned many times that sound engineers should never use headphones to close themselves off from the outside world - this leads to a complete disconnection from the outside world. It becomes harder and harder for such a person to live every day, this leads to even greater illness and nervous irritation, and then - emotional exhaustion, depression.

When I heard this for the first time, I was horrified: how could I refuse the greatest, in my then understanding, invention of the world - small, tiny things in which music thunders and relieves nervous irritation? I was sure that it would never happen that I could be without them public place. Yes, my hands started to shake if I couldn’t get them out of my bag and stick them in my ears quickly enough! And here they offer me to part with them forever? Yes, this cannot be! But with each new lecture, especially on the sound vector, already at the second level of training I caught myself thinking that I understand that this is true: headphones are main reason my increasing nervous tension.

After Yuri Burlan’s training lectures, I discovered a completely different type of relationship - I began to understand people better. Time passed, I changed jobs. Life spun and ran. The sounds gradually began to irritate me less; I no longer experienced such nervous tension as before.

It so happened that I began to travel less on public transport. And somehow by chance I needed headphones less and less, the surrounding irritant simply disappeared. But I still took them with me just in case. It often happened that the irritant appeared nearby, but I restrained myself from putting on headphones. If the situation became unbearable (rarely, but it happened), I simply moved away from the irritant, for example, getting off at a bus stop, and quickly forgot about it. I managed this quite easily. Probably the reason was that I began to understand why the sounds irritated me. Irritability was associated with a stressful skin vector, the stress of which manifests itself precisely in suffocating nervous irritation. The problem is that with an unfilled sound vector, other vectors cannot be realized - and here is the result: a terrible tension that exhausts and kills the remains nerve cells, and the rest are tied into a shaking ball of hatred. Having filled the sound vector, I got the opportunity to understand and realize desires also in the skin vector and began to experience a feeling of happiness and satisfaction from life.

Why did sounds irritate me? The main thing is that today they are no longer annoying!

Surprisingly, today I don’t remember where my headphones are. I am exactly the person whose hands once shook: from nervous irritation I was torn to pieces when these very headphones, as luck would have it, got tangled, and next to me sat a man whose nose sounds made me furious - NOW I CAN LIVE WITHOUT HEADPHONES. And without nervous irritation.

And this life is wonderful!

If I succeeded, then you will be even more successful in getting rid of nervous irritation. And you will definitely be able to answer the question “Why do sounds irritate me?” or something else is annoying. It's simple. Sign up for free online training on “System-vector psychology” by Yuri Burlan, and after the first two lessons a lot will become obvious to you.

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Like most living creatures on Earth, feelings and sensations help a person navigate space. And, despite the fact that people officially have only five basic senses, there are actually more. However, the sense of sound is one of the most basic, it is what helps us capture vibrations (generating pressure waves) through an intermediary, usually air, which turns into something completely different - sound.

Thanks to this feeling, we can listen to music, communicate verbally, and hear an approaching threat. The path that these vibrations take before being formed into sound is truly amazing, and it determines whether it will be pleasant or annoying to the human ear.

Let's start our list with a truly terrifying and annoying sound - everyone remembers the scraping of nails school blackboard. In the list of sounds that irritate people the most, this one occupies a leading position. But why exactly is it so disgusting to human hearing? The same question plagued some scientists, and they decided to conduct a study in 2011. This unpleasant sound is mid-frequency and is in the range from 2000 to 5000 Hz; the human ear, due to its shape, amplifies mid-frequency sounds. Perhaps it's a matter of evolution: the danger warning sounds that monkeys make are also around this frequency. This fact may well explain the reason that these particular sounds seem louder to a person than they really are. Many question this explanation.

However, the reason why it is so annoying to most people is still unclear. If the above study is to be believed, it all depends on the context. About two hundred people were involved in the experiment, during which they were connected to monitors that recorded changes in heart rate, electrical skin activity and the level of sweat produced under the influence of irritating sounds. After that, the subjects were asked to rate the level of unpleasantness of the sounds on a certain scale. Half of those participating in the trial were told their source, the other was presented with them as part of a piece of music. But, nevertheless, the body’s reaction remained unchanged: rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms, etc. It should be noted that people who were told the source of the sounds rated them as more annoying than those who listened to them as part of a musical composition. Perhaps the sound in itself is not so unpleasant, the effect is enhanced by what we see. Other similar sounds, for example, from a working drill; from a knife that slides across a glass; a fork, which we run across a plate or teeth; sheets of foam that rub against each other all fall into this category.

Chomping

Have you ever had lunch in the company of those who chew or slurp loudly? If so, then you most likely wanted to slap them on the head too. But, if suddenly this did not happen to you, then you are lucky. What we will tell you here comes solely from personal experience. Most likely, you heard this too, but just didn’t pay attention. If this is the case, then you are doubly lucky, because misophonia (intolerance to certain sounds) is unusual for you. The term itself appeared in the early 2000s, when a group of scientists began to study tinnitus. But misophonia refers not only to this phenomenon, but to the unpleasant sensations that people experience when hearing certain sounds: slurping, heavy breathing, finger tapping, yawning, finger crunching, snoring and even whistling. As it turned out, the point here is that the sound is repeated with a certain periodicity. Surprisingly, misophonia is also associated with a dislike of fidgeting, although this process has nothing to do with auditory perception of reality.

Normal reactions of people with misophonia may include irritation, disgust, discomfort, even a desire to leave. But sometimes it happens that people react much more harshly, falling into panic, rage or experiencing intense hatred. Sometimes it even comes to the point of wanting to kill the person who makes the annoying sound, or suicidal thoughts arise. It is, of course, very difficult for such people to be in society; they try to avoid dangerous meetings with others and eat alone or completely isolate themselves from society. Misophonia has not yet been studied well enough, but there are really a lot of people suffering from it. Symptoms are usually associated with irritation, depression and even obsessive-compulsive behavior. What is the cause of such irritation is still unclear; doctors believe that both physical and psychological sides are involved. Misophonia begins to appear during adolescence and is most common in girls. But the question is whether this phenomenon can be recognized as a disease, or is it just obsessive-compulsive disorder, is still open.

Earworm (Haunting Ringtones)

Has it ever happened to you that the same song plays in your head, as if the record was stuck? Of course, this has happened to everyone. The worst part is that it's not even the whole song, but a small excerpt or chorus, right? This annoying nonsense is called an earworm, and it has been tormenting humanity for quite some time. There are always several reasons for this phenomenon, here are the main ones: stress, increased emotional sensitivity, having your head in the clouds, associative series. This is why you start singing Queen's "Bohemian Rhapsody" when someone says the word "mama." In fact, 90% of people experience this condition at least once a week, while a quarter of us experience it several times a day. Most often, this state occurs when we do routine work on which we do not need to concentrate much.

By the way, we bet you’re humming “Bohemian Rhapsody” right now, right? Okay, let's move on...

Most often, the chorus gets stuck in our heads, because this is the part of the song that we remember most quickly. And since we don’t know the whole song, we repeat the chorus in our memory over and over again, trying to reach the end, which in fact does not exist. Earworms are also, to some extent, related to the auditory imagination. To date, scientists cannot say for sure whether intrusive melodies have any higher purpose, other than the opportunity to give the brain a little rest. As a result of research, it was also found that people who do verbal exercises, read anagrams or an exciting novel do not hear intrusive melodies in their heads. The idea is to keep your brain occupied with something not very difficult, then the earworms will never come to you.

Baby crying is one of the most annoying and unpleasant sounds

If every time you fly on a plane, it seems to you that a child is crying somewhere, we will tell you about the reasons for this phenomenon. The human brain is just programmed that way. It turns out that a child's cry always attracts our attention more than any other sound in the world. Oxford scientists conducted an experiment in which it turned out that when a person hears a child crying, several of his brain centers immediately react to this: emotional, speech, the “fight or flight” mechanism, pleasure centers for several senses at once. The brain's reaction to it is so lightning fast that, even having recognized it only partially, it is perceived as very important.

All the volunteers who took part in the study were given different sounds to listen to, including the crying of adults, the cries of animals in pain, none of the sounds caused such a violent reaction in the brain as the crying of a child. Moreover, none of the 28 volunteers had children, and none of them had ever been alone with babies. This means that every person instinctively reacts to the cry of a child, regardless of whether he has his own children or not. Interesting fact- immediately after a person hears a child’s cry, his body mobilizes, which contributes to a rapid transition to care mode. So, no matter whether you have children or not, you will still react to children's cries and there is nothing you can do about it.

Vuvuzelas

The history of the vuvuzela begins in 1910, with Isaiah Shembe, a self-proclaimed preacher and founder of the Nazareth Baptist Church in South Africa. Initially, this instrument was made of reed, then of metal; it was usually used in church services. And as the number of followers of this church increased, the more widespread the vuvuzela became; in the 80s of the 20th century, it began to appear at football stadiums in South Africa. In the 90s, the mass production of plastic vuvuzelas covered South Africa, this instrument has become an integral part of sporting events in the country. The vuvuzela became widespread in 2010 after the FIFA World Cup, which took place in South Africa.

Being something new and having a very loud sound, the vuvuzela gradually entered other sports. But her loud fame was short-lived: when several vuvuzelas sounded simultaneously, the sound was so loud that some fans lost their hearing for a while and got the impression that there was a crowd of evil dwarfs somewhere nearby. This sound irritates the ear even when a match is broadcast on TV, and what makes the situation worse is that a person cannot control its source. In general, the whole story with the vuvuzela quickly came to naught; at the next FIFA championship in Brazil, their use was banned.

Gagging

Do you feel nauseous when you hear someone vomiting or when someone just talks about it? If your answer is yes, then we have two news for you: good and bad. We suggest starting with the bad one - you can’t do anything about it, that’s how the human brain works. That's all. But there is good news: such a reflex indicates that you are an empath. Yes, you can truly feel what others feel and empathize with them. You are the one they call a good man or partner. So-called “mirror” neurons work well in your brain, which make you copy the behavior and feelings of others.

The presence of these same neurons indicates that you have reached the highest stage of evolution, conditionally, of course. Believe it or not, a reflex like this could one day save your life. Scientists believe that such behavior is characteristic only of humans, since he is a social being. Let's go back to prehistoric times, when people lived in very small communities: if one or more members of the community began to vomit, it could mean that the food was spoiled or poisonous, and only the gag reflex could save the rest from poisoning. That is, such behavior simply helped our ancestors survive.

Swearing at other people

With the appearance on television screens of various programs such as The Jerry Springer Show and, of course, the broadcast of the latest presidential elections in the USA, it begins to seem that people simply love to start fights and do not find them irritable at all. To some extent this is true, as long as you are on the other side of the screen and just looking at it all. If you're lying on the couch watching TV, it's certainly fun to watch others fight. You may even start to feel better. But, for example, if you are in the kitchen and your neighbors start arguing about who is washing the dishes today, or who left the toilet seat up, then you will definitely feel discomfort when you are next to them. And you don’t have to take part in the conflict, it’s enough that these people are at least a little indifferent to you. The subject of the dispute and your desire to take part in it also play a role.

Our attitude towards conflict situations depends on how our parents resolved them. Children at any age, whether they are one year old or fifteen years old, are very sensitive to parental quarrels. This concerns primarily not the subject of the dispute, but the final result. For many years, psychologists have studied the impact of parental conflicts on children, and although arguments are still inevitable, they can also benefit from them. It is important that children see that after conflict resolution parents become a little better, then they can understand the true meaning of compromise, acceptance of other people and resolution conflict situations. If this does not happen, then in adulthood such children will be afraid of conflict, everyone possible ways avoiding controversial situations.

Chatting on the phone

In 1880, Mark Twain wrote an essay called "Telephone Conversation." This happened just 4 years after Alexander Bell invented it. In this essay, Twain is ironic about how a telephone conversation is perceived by a third party who only hears half of the conversation. What led him to write this work is still the reason why we are annoyed by strangers today. telephone conversations. The fact is that the human brain tends to predict events. It doesn't matter whether we do it consciously or unconsciously, when we listen to someone else's telephone conversation, we have insufficient information and cannot predict what the speaker will say next. All people do this, and there is no way to influence it.

This phenomenon is directly related to the main idea of ​​the “theory of consciousness”, which is that a person has access only to his own consciousness, and this can be obtained through introspection; we can try to understand others using the same analogy and through comparison. And people are quite capable of this. There have been cases when people repeated almost word for word what their interlocutor was going to say. But if part of the conversation is inaccessible, the brain cannot simulate a response, which drives it crazy. It is for this reason that other people's telephone conversations irritate us, because we cannot predict what the person will say in the next minute.

Spitting, coughing, sniffling, and, of course, farting

Every person would call all these unpleasant sounds disgusting or, at least, annoying. This is partly due to misophonia, which we discussed above, but there are other reasons as well. First of all, these are some social factors. For example, people in the UK find these sounds more annoying than people in South Africa, most likely due to cultural differences. Older people are more critical of them, perhaps because they have not heard them as often in public, or perhaps because their libido has waned - scientists have not yet come to a clear conclusion.

Another explanation is that these sounds are associated with human body secretions and excrement, which may be the result of pathology or disease, which is why people find it unpleasant to hear them. In addition, the study showed that women are more irritated by these sounds than men. Perhaps this happens because a woman is genetically programmed to take care not only of herself, but also of the child. Although, of course, no one can cancel the role of social factors.

Brownian noise

Let's take the last annoying sound hypothetically and listen to Brownian noise, which few people know about. We hope you are reading this article from your phone or while sitting on the toilet, just to be on the safe side.

This is a low sound, its frequency is 5–9 Hz, which is unattainable for perception by the human ear. But, if the sound is loud enough, our body can feel the vibration. You have to be careful, because they say he's the one who makes people shit their pants (literally). Not very nice, is it? The story of this noise began in 1955 and is connected with an airplane. It was an experimental aircraft with a turbine engine and a high-speed propeller whose rotation speed reached nine hundred revolutions per minute. Even on Idling on the ground, a working propeller caused nausea, headaches and uncontrollable bowel movements in people nearby. The project was canceled and some crew members were seriously injured by the shock wave. The plane was recognized as the loudest in history - the sound of the engines running could be heard 40 kilometers away.

Nevertheless, experiments were carried out for quite a long time, but it was not possible to obtain this Brownian noise. Even NASA became interested in this phenomenon, they were concerned that the astronauts might need to change their spacesuit after takeoff. But the myth of Brownian noise is still alive. In 2005, MythBusters tried to recreate it, but nothing terrible happened. According to the subject, he simply had the feeling that he was being hit in the chest, as if it were a drum. It may be that people's reaction to the sound from an airplane was not created artificially, and Brownian noise really exists. Just imagine, if someone could recreate this sound and somehow make it publicly available, what kind of fun would any child have at Sunday church service?

Sounds are certainly an integral part of our lives. Even people who have lost their hearing are able to sense many of them. But they are not always pleasant to the human ear, and sometimes can even have a detrimental effect on health. Today we tried to explain to you the nature of perception of only some of them; in fact, there are many more.

There are a lot unpleasant sounds that irritate a person. For example, no one likes to listen to the sound of nails scratching a board, let alone the sound of a fork scraping on a plate. When all the muscles are tense, a chill runs down the back, and a terrible sensation appears on the teeth, similar to a sore throat. In order to convey to you as accurately as possible the full range of these “wonderful” feelings, we specially listened to the creaks and clangs of several objects. Brrr! But what can you do for our readers?

What is the explanation for this reaction of the body?

Dr Sukhbinder Kumar from the Institute of Neuroscience at Newcastle University in the UK suggests that this reaction occurs in the amygdala, two small areas of our brain associated with positive and negative emotions. Perhaps this reaction is a warning reflex inherited from our ancestors. To survive, they were constantly on alert, listening to various sounds that could be associated with danger. All these factors caused their bodies to react in the manner described above.

The crying of a child, for example, can sometimes be very unpleasant for our ears, but, nevertheless, it forces us to pay attention to it and calm the baby. But in general, high frequency sounds are always annoying, because they are often associated with danger. This is clearly visible in the animal world. When a monkey wants to warn the group that a predator is approaching, it always emits a high-pitched cry. It is believed that our ancestors also signaled the threat.

The most unpleasant sounds for a person

We would like to note right away that it is difficult to single out any particular sound as the most unpleasant sound in the world. Some people are more sensitive and are annoyed by more noises, clanks and grinding noises. So one person hears the creaking of a rusty swing in the park and cannot be there, while another simply does not notice it. Therefore, which sound is the most terrible is everyone’s personal matter. So, we present to you list of the most annoying sounds.

— The scraping of a fork or knife on a plate is perhaps one of the most disgusting. It’s not for nothing that after it everyone sitting at the table looks very unfriendly at the person who accidentally published it.

— The sound of water dripping from a tap.

— The sound of a violin when it is played poorly.

- A high-pitched piercing sound when a very powerful whistle is installed on a boiling kettle.

- Sound when the microphone is turned on. We are sure you heard it at a concert or at a conference.

— Doors creaking.

- The sound of fingernails or chalk being drawn across a board with force.

— The creaking of rusty chains on the swing.

— The sound when a car rushes at high speed and then suddenly brakes.

- The cry of a child. Although a person is nervous, crying triggers an instinct that encourages him to take care of the baby.

— The sound of power tools such as drills, hammer drills and others.

— The grinding of wheels on the rails when the train slows down.

— Sound when foam rubs.

— The squeak of a flying mosquito.

— The sound of a drill in a dental office.

And this is not the entire list. As we have already written, it is individual for each person. We wish you to hear unpleasant sounds less often so that your nerves are in order.

“At the very time when I am working on this material, the issue is being delivered - and behind my back the designers are discussing the intricacies of the layout, and at the next table a colleague is talking with the chief editor. Concentrating in such conditions is simply unthinkable! But this happens every month. I endured it for a year, and then I realized that this would not change, and recently I bought headphones with large “ears” so as not to disturb others. Now I’m writing while listening to Bach. Honestly, I would prefer complete silence, but since this is impossible, then between excited voices and “Musical Offering” I choose the latter.”

A conversation between fellow travelers on the subway, a dog barking outside the window, a party at a neighboring dacha - all this instantly infuriates 36-year-old Lyubov. “I feel extremely irritated,” she admits. “This noise consumes my thoughts, everything else seems to cease to exist for me, and only this sound torture remains.”

I have heightened hearing. Different people perceive sounds differently. Some of us will walk past a working jackhammer without wincing, while others will shudder at the slam of a closing door. “Some people have acute hearing,” explains otolaryngologist Elena Fedotova. – This phenomenon is called hyperacusis, or increased hearing acuity. Their inner ear is more developed than others. But sounds can cause severe discomfort, irritate and even cause pain to those who, on the contrary, have impaired hearing.”

I feel defenseless.“A sound that we “didn’t order” can be involuntarily perceived as an invasion of our internal territory, as a threat to our peace of mind or way of life, explains family psychologist Inna Shifanova. “It triggers our physiological flight-or-fight response.” Pulse and breathing quicken, muscles involuntarily tense, and sweating increases. Our attention is focused on the source of danger - this is also part of our instinctive program, which is why it is so difficult for us to be distracted from this sound.” If at the same time we can neither escape nor fight, then we experience this situation as a state of complete helplessness. It intensifies if sounds cause unpleasant associations. “We are especially bothered by those that we associate with a value system that is alien to us,” says psychotherapist and neuroscientist Beatrice Milletre. So, old man, most likely, will have a hard time standing the rap music that his grandson listens to. The grandson may be annoyed by the recording of Ruslanova’s songs. According to the psychotherapist, this trend is generally characteristic of our era: “We live in a society that is developing in an individualistic direction much more strongly than ever before. Everyone believes that the world should adapt to them.”

I'm letting off steam. “When we are, it’s hard to piss us off and we don’t even notice many interferences,” reminds Inna Shifanova. “However, if we are tired, upset or have difficulty achieving internal balance, an extraneous sound can unsettle us. And the irritation that we experience about this absorbs the energy of our dissatisfaction with everything else.” The paradox is that this same situation gives us a chance to regain confidence in ourselves - by expressing our anger or doing something to protect ourselves from unwanted noise.

What to do?

Visit an otolaryngologist

“Increased sensitivity to noise can be a symptom of incipient deafness,” warns Elena Fedotova. She advises getting tested and also emphasizes the importance of taking care of your hearing: “Music too loud, working in constant noise higher level can damage the inner ear, but it does not recover.” As you know, prevention is better than cure.

Think over protection

“Try to create the right sound environment for yourself, change it depending on your mood and moment,” suggests Beatrice Milletre. – Choose pleasant music, put on a CD with nature sounds, use double glazing and even earplugs.”

Consider the context

“We react to the situation as a whole, and not just to a specific stimulus,” emphasizes Inna Shifanova. – Howl car alarm under the windows will irritate you much more if you have just moved into this apartment and found a lot of shortcomings in it than if you have lived there for a long time and, in addition, sympathize with the neighbor who owns the car. Treat your irritation as a reason to analyze the situation and think about what and how to change for the better.”

Sounds don't hurt. They do not hurt the ear, and blood does not flow from it. When an annoying sharp sound sounds somewhere, outwardly nothing bad happens. But this is only external. But internally, the whole world is turning upside down. The soul shrinks into a ball and screams: “ I can't stand it! No no no! It is unbearable! This is unthinkable! This is impossible!“Yes, there is no such physical pain in the world that can be even a drop equal to that experienced by a person who is irritated by sounds.

Sounds irritate me!

This can be compared to a tsunami. When on a long-distance bus someone in the next seat takes out an apple and you can hear it chomping. A tsunami of hatred for sounds, people, this whole life, rises inside you to a huge height, like a skyscraper, to the skies, and begins to fly with all its might, trying to wash away everything around you. And he stops, pinning you to the window where you are sitting. Because there is no way out. Because it's another 5 hours to go. Because our whole life is pure pain.

Do you know what it is like when sounds are very annoying? Oh no, you don’t know what it is if you don’t hear how, after chomping on an apple, this one begins to remove its remnants from his holes in his teeth with his tongue, releasing smacking and clicking sounds into the light of day. Like the pricks of a thin long needle, they stick somewhere there, inside you - and kill, kill, kill...

Disgusting.

N-e-n-a-v-i-s-t-n-o.

The only salvation is headphones, behind which you can hide from the entire outside world. The irritation from sounds gradually subsides, and you withdraw into yourself, your thoughts, your dreams. You can live...

But who needs such a life?

Annoying sounds: a disease or just a curse?

The loud creaking of a door, the dripping of water from a broken tap, the squeal of nails scratching on glass, music from a portable speaker on a teenager’s belt (there are more of them now and there will be even more of them), the snoring of a neighbor in a compartment - these are just a few of the sounds that are very annoying in everyday life.

Maybe such irritation from sounds is a disease? But no one will offer you medicine, dear patient, even though you are suffering. Just earplugs and a sedative. Don't take it, they won't help. Nothing can relieve this pain. One can only understand it.

Of course, it is not a disease to hear sounds acutely. This is simply a physiological feature of some people who are called sonic people. Only 5 percent of such people are born, but not all of them experience acute pain, and not all of them have sounds that irritate their ears.

This, by the way, is very easy to see on the same long-distance bus or in the subway, or in any public place. When sounds irritate you, agitating your whole soul, look around - many people simply do not hear what is “killing” you. They don't play a role, they don't tense up, they don't hide their feelings deep inside themselves, like you do. Oh no. They just don't hear. And not because they are different. The whole point is that this you are OTHER.

Why loud noises are annoying: causes and consequences

It all starts from early childhood.

A sound engineer has a very sensitive ear by nature. He hears more than others can hear. The singing of a bird far, far away, the rubbing of a bug's legs, the creaking of floorboards, the murmur of a river. But, unfortunately, it is not only such sounds that surround him.

A screaming TV, a radio playing at full blast in the car in the yard, screaming children in the next apartment, the raised tone of a mother singing in the kitchen while preparing dinner. By the way, it also happens that other children quickly notice this feature of the sound player and can deliberately injure him. For example, run up from behind and clap your ears. Or specially bring polystyrene foam and creak in his ear. The cacophony of sounds hurts the little sound artist; it turns his life into pain. A reaction appears - you want to close yourself, run away from the sounds, turn off the world. Somewhere it works. But time inevitably moves forward.

If by adolescence it is not possible to correctly form the skill of focusing on external events, going out with your attention, then real irritation with sounds and hostility towards the people making them appears. “Switch off the world!” - this is the internal cry of a sound engineer who has fallen into the trap of increased sound, because he begins to notice literally all the sounds around him, even breathing in another room. And this situation will only increase. It can't go anywhere because hear thinly- it's innate. This property cannot be denied. And you will never be able to stop hearing the sounds around you.

And there is only one way out. True, he is tiny. But behind him is another world. Where sounds do not hurt, but delight. Where creaking and slurping are not noticed, but music fills. Where there is no irritation. True, getting into it is harder than getting a camel through the eye of a needle. Much, much more difficult. But there is good news - it is still possible!

Sounds are very annoying: what should I do?

A sound specialist is born with a keen ear, and this quality will remain with him until his last breath. There is no answer to the question: “How to stop being irritated by sounds?” It simply doesn't exist. Don't even look.

But there are answers to other questions:

Why does a sound guy hear more than others? Why was this property given to him by nature?

What does irritation with loud noises really mean? What is its meaning?

When and how can this attitude, your wildest mental pain, be changed to the opposite state?

How to enjoy life and not suffer from it?

The causes of irritation from sounds are hidden in the sound vector itself. He needs to learn to hear behind external manifestations not the form (dripping, creaking, slurping, and so on), but the essence - to discover for ourselves the meaning of everything that surrounds us, the meaning of life: our own and society as a whole.

But this doesn’t work out, which means he carries pain and hatred within himself. It is internal irritation and tension that should normally push us there, in the right direction. But, unfortunately, “crutches” are found in time: headphones, earplugs, meditation, valerian and more. They relieve pain like a painkiller - partially, temporarily, but without solving the problem. And it just accumulates and accumulates, trying to turn into that same tsunami of hatred and break through. And now, being in headphones, against the backdrop of rumbling rock, we begin to hear an annoying slurping sound, from which you cannot hide and you simply go crazy.

How to make it work? How to hear sounds correctly?

Step one: realize yourself as a sound artist. Read about yourself, find out your characteristics.

Step two: understand other people, other vectors. Read about them, find out why you are not like them, find someone else in yourself other than a sound artist.

Step three: do not isolate yourself from sounds, but begin to look for meaning and truth behind the sounds. It's difficult, but not impossible. It’s better to do this in the company of people like you. They are easy to meet at the “System-vector psychology” training.

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